Friendship & Marriage

Everyone told me things would change after I got married and I assured them they were wrong. I argued that if I had all these friends prior to marriage, why would that change after marriage? It's one of those moments in life when you have to admit that they were right. At least no one has said "I told you so" (yet).

Has anyone else experienced this?

I've rationalized various reasons for this. Perhaps it's me. I take my job as wife very seriously making my husband my top priority right after God. I am not going to waste my time with people that are not loving when I could be making memories with my hub. Perhaps the friends really weren't friends in the first place and I've just now analyzed the friendship enough to realize it. Maybe I'm not a good friend. Maybe I am not loving enough toward my friends, maybe I don't make enough time for them and they feel neglected.

Whatever it is. Whoever is at fault. It is hard. It's hard living far away from the people you love and who love you and feeling as though the only support system you have is the family you married into.

I can't get entirely all woe is me on you because I do have amazing friends. I guess what I need to pray for are more couple friends. I would love for Justin and I to have another couple to go to dinner with, camp with, or cookout with. We have friends like that, but they unfortunately live in other states so getting with them is not always easy.

Fact of the matter is friendships change, wane, and disintegrate with marriage. I can honestly say marriage is worth it. And the friendships that don't change are the ones that count.