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Wednesday, January 16, 2013

Intentional-ism.

Something on my "Things to Stop Wasting Time on in 2013" list were friendships that I'm not truly invested in.  As much as that hurt my heart, I know its something that I need to do.  I've learned a difficult lesson in my adult years: not everyone is worthy of your friendship.  Not necessarily my friendship, but anyone's friendship.



Without focusing on friendships that aren't significant in my life, it has opened up time and energy to focus on the friendships that do matter and are significant.  I've decided to be more intentional in those relationships.  Everyone loves getting mail so one way I'm being more intentional is by sending more handwritten notes, cards, and packages.

I'm not telling you this to brag on myself, but to show you what a difference this small gesture makes.  This week on two separate days I received these text messages:


And sweet, Laura, thanked me on her blog.  Honestly, I didn't expect any of these kind words nor did I do what I did to receive credit.  I did it because I genuinely care about these women and I am grateful to have them in my life.  They deserve to know it.

Sweater: Abercrombie via Plato's Closet, Dress: thrift,
Leggings: Old Navy, Boots: Steve Madden via Macy's
I encourage you to do something big or small for your friends; the people in your life that you don't talk to enough.  The ones that you love unconditionally, but maybe haven't told in a while.  I had no idea that my friend was having a rough day, but God did so He delivered her gift at the exact moment she needed it most.  Amazing.

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52 weeks of kindness
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9 comments:

  1. i love your dress! and it looks great paired with that cardigan and tights!

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  2. I'm working on similar goals in my life... It's easy to get caught up in the day to day. As a teacher, too, I've tried to incorporate some random acts of kindness toward students at my high school (which we all know can be such a, well, difficult stage of life). Glad you're bringing smiles to your girl friends' lives... Goodness grows! I bet they pass it on and do something kind for someone else.

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  3. I've been working on being more intentional too! I sent out a round of cards to friends too. It felt so good to have them respond in a similar way! It's great knowing you are loved and can help make someone's day by doing something so simple!

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  4. I'm a random card sender. I love doing it.

    And you are so right about not wasting energy on people who aren't worth it.

    p.s. love your outfit!

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  5. This is wonderful! You are being intentional! I love the sweetest and surprise in the way you remind people of your love and care. I send snail mail packages to my nieces and nephews...it brightens their day and when they call to say thank you, we have the best of conversations! Little things like this go a long ways!!

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  6. Good Friends are so hard to come by! I love that you are such a supportive friend! Loving the pattern of your dress! Thanks for linking up with Diaries of A Bargainista, looking forward to the outfit you put together next week!

    http://allthingsalisamarie.blogspot.com

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  7. I couldn't agree more! My #1 New Years resolution was to put the friendships aside that I gave to much of my time too and got nothing in return: respect, love, happiness or their time. I started focusing on the people who were trying to be a part of my life and I couldn't be more happy. It really is the small things that matter. Congrats on making that huge emotional step!
    XO Brooke

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  8. I love your outfit, of course, and I love that your package arrived at your friend's on a day she really needed it. You're so sweet and amazing!

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  9. Lins you're such a beautiful person inside and out. I really admire you :)
    xoxo

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