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Saturday, January 5, 2013

So Called 31

I started reading this book, My So Called Life as a Proverbs 31 Wife, after hearing about it on instagram.  In case you're interested in joining me, it's only $2.51 on Kindle right now!

I'm not sure I've shared my hopes for this blog, but if I had a mission statement this would be it:

My desire is to illustrate and foster individuality and independence in today's modern woman while, at the same time, demonstrating the significance of being a loving wife/mother.
(I'm not yet a mother, but when that time comes my hope is this.)

Let me explain...by modern and individual I mean strong, purposeful, fashionable, and confident.  By independent I don't mean "without man."  I mean self-made, resourceful, and reliable.  Today's world stresses that women don't need a man (and I agree with the world), but woman was created for man.  Therefore, be a woman.  Be a strong, independent, modern woman, but be lovable and caring and supportive all the same.

So, with this vision in mind, it is not possible for me to sit back and read this book without sharing what I am reading and how I am reflecting with all of you.  I encourage you to read it and share with me your own thoughts and feelings.  If you have read it, please, feel free to share.  As I continue through the book, I'm sure it will spark topics for future posts.  

I can totally relate to the author.  The first time I heard all the "stipulations" for a Proverbs 31 woman, I was pretty defensive.  Why didn't men have a laundry list of things to do?  Why women?

I thought what I might do is break down the Proverbs 31 Woman scripture into a few verses at a time and reflect on my own experience trying to live this lifestyle while adding in anecdotes from the author as well. At some point, I thought it would be really fun to host a P31Challenge Link-up.  Note (obviously) the challenge would not be my own, but the author's challenge.  I just thought it would be nice to have a support group of women all trying to embark on the same journey.  Let me know if any of you are interested in that.

"Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?
She is more precious than rubies.
Her husband can trust her,
and she will greatly enrich his life.
She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life."
Proverbs 31:10-12

I have to admit, first and foremost, that like Horn, I started trying to do this despite.  It was almost like I read this as a challenge and people expected me to fail.  I don't know about you, but I hate failure.  I like to be good at everything I do and if I'm going to be a wife, I want to be a good one!  So since everyone knew I couldn't do it (in my head apparently), I decided to do it despite everyone!

When I first read this, I had no problem with it.  I agree, I am as precious as rubies.  My husband can trust me.  I will be good to him.  Then there is this part: all the days of her life.  I realized there are some times when I'm cranky or tired or ill or for no reason at all and I take it out on him.  Even if my original source of frustration had nothing to do with him, he was/is the target of my emotion.  Do you do that, too?  So I decided that I was going to be more intentional with my interactions with my hubby.

Now, I know I fail at this on a daily basis, but I try so hard to bring him good, not harm, all the days of my life.  Honey, if you're reading this, I do try.  Guys, it can be so hard to take a deep breath and overlook the boxers on the bathroom floor or the Coke can on the end table.  However, I have to say, those are such stupid things to argue about!  It's so much easier to overlook them than to waste time fighting about them.  And we won't even talk about all the aggrivating things I do.  He overlooks most those on a daily basis as well.  So, this much he deserves.  (According to Proverbs, he deserves it all...)  

Do you aim to bring your man good, not harm, all the days of your life?  Do you struggle with it?
I'm not saying I sit and plot ways to bring him harm, but sometimes I do it on accident!
Do you enrich his life?  Can he trust you?  Because, lady, you ARE more precious than a ruby.

There are several great resources tied in with this book such as the great blog Sarah Horn updates regularly with great recipes and inspiring posts, the P31 Challenge that you can take (perfection not required), and a Pinterest P31 Scavenger Hunt!

A Royal Daughter


  1. Thank you for sharing this..I cannot wait to look in to that book. I'm so humbled by what you've shared.

  2. Lindsay, I have read snippets of this book and I really like it. I am going to go buy it now and read along with you! Thx!

  3. Lindsay! So thoughtful as well as thought provoking. I, too, plan to look up this book and read it. Thank you for bringing it to my attention!

  4. Drat! It's not that great price right now on Kindle, but I've got in on my wish list. I'd totally do a book club thing if you get enough interest in it! Thanks for sharing!

  5. That verse (Proverbs 31:12) was a favorite of mine as a kid. God really used it to remind me that it says "all the days of her life" - not just after they were married.

    Great post - thanks for linking up to Desire to Inspire!


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