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Thursday, March 6, 2014

Being Me and Being Mommy



Chambray: Old Navy, Tee: GAP (similar), Capris: H&M
Motherhood.  It's pretty incredible.  You have a baby and suddenly your identity changes.

I'm not just me anymore.  I'm mommy.

My husband and I were talking the other night and we both shared that when we go to buy something we find ourselves thinking something along the lines of:
Do I really need this or should I put this money aside for the baby?  

And it occurred to me (and I think we both agreed) that CT isn't going to hold it against us if he has a college loan and we had new golf clubs or 3 pairs of TOMS from Zulily (oops) 20 years from now.

I'm not saying to spend frivolously and we have already started a savings account for the little guy.  What I am saying is that we don't need to identify solely as parents.  Before anyone becomes upset with me let me make it clear, being a mommy is the best blessing I've ever received.  One that I take seriously and will embrace every single moment for the rest of my life.  If I'm being honest, it will be what comes first before all the other things in my life from here on out.

BUT...

Just because I'm a mommy doesn't mean I have to stop being me.  And it doesn't mean my husband has to stop being who he has always been.   I love fashion.  He loves golf.  Those are things that make us who we are and just because we are now Mommy and Daddy doesn't mean we have to give those things up.  If nothing else, we should embrace them more!

I think it's so important to maintain a sense of self no matter what we are doing in life.  I've always said I'm a teacher, but I'm also...  Now, I'm a mommy and also a wife/daughter/sister/runner/sewer/fashionista/etc.  I don't want to give those things up.  I'm pretty sure CT wouldn't expect me to.

7 comments:

  1. I absolutely, absolutelyyyyy agree. It's so important to maintain your own identity, continue doing the things that you love to do, because honestly, that makes you a better mom!

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  2. Agree with you! I'm not a mommy, but I definitely think it's important to keep your sense of self in relationships - including with your precious kiddo.

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  3. Great point! Being mommy requires a balance in so many areas of your life but keeping your identity as a woman is very important.

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  4. Agreed!! Plus you're such a savvy shopper that it's not like your dropping hundreds of dollars on frivolous stuff. You still can a fashion maven & a mommy!! I'm sure this is something I'll struggle with when my day comes too!

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  5. LOVE this!! You need to find time for you, you and hubby, you and baby, and all three of you!! You'll create a balance (although unbalanced at times!) and I truly believe that is so important. You are such a wise woman and CT is a lucky little lad!! Hope you're feeling well this Monday~

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  6. It's so important to still maintain a sense of who YOU are even when you are a mother. Great post Lins!

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  7. EXACTLY! I am so glad you feel this way because I have seen so many of my friends get caught up in only being a parent. You are still Linz, you're still a wife, a teacher, and so much more.

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