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Tuesday, May 6, 2014

Things People Don't Tell You: Bringing Baby Home


I decided to write a mini-series titled Things People Don't Tell You because there are so many things that people don't tell you in regard to pregnancy, parenthood, etc.  In fact, Pinterest and blogs and social media make it all look so easy and glamorous and natural.  And a lot of it is, but a lot of it isn't.

So, I'm willing to be honest and open and share the things that people don't tell you in regards to pregnancy, delivery, bringing home a baby, breastfeeding, etc.
You can see my previous posts about pregnancybreastfeeding, and going back to work after baby

If you have questions or suggestions for future topics, please email me.  I'm happy to share!
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There are so many new experiences once you leave the hospital with your baby for the first time.  Walking out that door with a baby in your arms feels like the best thing to ever happen to you.  I cried the whole ride home I was so happy to leave the hospital.  I remember calling my dad and saying, "It feels like he's really mine now."  After 9 months and how many hours of pushing you would think I already knew that!  But, bringing baby home makes it real.

Getting home with your little family is amazing.  The first night home we made it just us and we camped out in the living room with baby in the pack-n-play and took turns sleeping on the couch next to him.

There are going to be a ton of people that want to come over and help you (and you need to take advantage of every single offer while you can), but that first night, let it be just the three (or four if you have twins) of you.  Let your first night be special.  We ordered pizza, sat by our Christmas tree, and took turns holding the greatest joy we've ever come to know.

Those people, the ones that want to help you...  You may feel bad accepting all the generosity.  Don't.  It doesn't last forever and you need your rest.  I had friends take ornaments off my Christmas tree, sit with the baby while I went and bought some fresh produce, fold my laundry.  It helps.  Even if you want to seem as though you can handle it all...let them help you.

Do what you are comfortable doing (especially you, mom.  you are still a patient yourself.)  Along with all those generous people willing to come hold baby while you rest, make you meals, and wash your dishes there are going to be a ton of people with (un)solicited advice.  Do what works for you.

Everyone and their mother is going to tell you to sleep when the baby sleeps.  It didn't work for me.  Sleep when you can/need and take advantage of nap times.  Don't fill them entirely with household chores...take a warm shower, paint your nails, do something for you.

Don't have expectations for yourself as a mother.  I, for one, had way too many ideas of all I was going to accomplish while home with baby.  They were so unrealistic.  Some days it was just good that I was out of bed before 9 (after the 6 am feeding) and showered by noon.

I intend to write a post sharing a few quick ways to make life easier as a new mom that will help with bringing baby home as well.

2 comments:

  1. I was one of those people who basically said "what do you mean you don't have time to shower?!" Then I had a baby. And I learned! I was lucky to shower once a week!!!

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  2. Good advice! I pretty much just had hubby the first two weeks after bringing baby home. He was super helpful and super attentive though so that was great!

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